Saturday, December 12, 2009

little aa world

It's a cold, windy afternoon in Tulsa and I have minimal motivation to accomplish the task before me: to clear out the stuff in this house. In these pre-Christmas days, no one's buying much anyway. I hope the first quarter of 2010 is back to normal. Usually our best of the year in my business, 2009 was absolutely wretched, with sales in January, February, and March over 50% down from the year before. I am so ready to be done with this.

So why write at all? Why not snuggle with the puppies under the blanket, drink more coffee, and read one of the good books I've got going? Because Mike just called from Mexico and his news filled me with such joy that it had to come out. It's such a little thing, but I'll take joy anywhere I can get it these dark days of winter.

What was it? What lifted my heart and made me laugh out loud? When I was in Yucatan two weeks ago, we sat down with a carpenter and worked up plans for doors and windows for our little house. The carpenter was great. Very warm and gracious. He took us to his shop where he works magic with rudimentary tools. We liked the plans, so as usual, we are casting aside all recommendations and putting in hardwood windows and doors rather than the more practical aluminum.

Aluminum won't rust and it looks good and it's reasonably inexpensive. But wood. Wood just feels right, and I know it will take more maintenance, but I think of the cedar-shingled houses of Nantucket which have stood for years in the salt spray, and I think we'll get by. I'll be retired, after all. A little house work won't kill me.

So the windows are in. Mike called to tell me they look incredible. He actually said "incredible," my calm, steady husband, the one not prone to superlatives, the one who never gets overly excited. "Incredible."

And then within a few minutes he called back and he sounded incredible himself. Happy, laughing. What could it be? It's so simple, and it's hard to put into words if you haven't experienced it, but in the course of providing food and drinks for our hard working crew at the house, Mike discovered that our carpenter, who we both fell in love with, and the general contractor from Merida, are in AA.

Not just dabbling in AA. They're long time sober people with years under their tool belts. And there's a meeting just a few blocks from our house in Chuburna. Isn't it odd that I'm writing this at 27 years sober (thank You), sitting here with tears in my eyes, and a heart filled with gratitude, because a couple of guys 2000 miles away don't drink anymore?

I can't figure it out. Some of my favorite people drink a lot and it doesn't bother me one bit. Mike's been having a blast running all over the Yucatan peninsula with people who drink most of the time. I have no problem with folks who drink. My favorite people in the world are drunks.

But there's something about the idea that 2000 miles away, two other people felt the need to live differently, and we met them just by chance. And they were people that we were drawn to and liked a lot. And that just seems very, very cool and it makes me really happy. There's a little bit of old home waiting for me in my future home.

Oh, and even more happiness: I found 15 unapproved comments in this thing when I opened it up after a month. That made me happy, though I'm wondering how it went into approval mode. One of the mysteries of life, just like the way the Universe finds a way to connect AA people. And the way that connection fills a heart with joy.

And you? What's making you happy these days? Tell, please.

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Blogger Demi Lu said...

Your blog is very interesting and different ... I like your blog!


December 12, 2009 2:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Making connections in new and exciting ways!

December 12, 2009 5:03 PM  
Blogger Linda said...


Good to hear your voice again! I'm SORRY, but I inadvertently published a comment before yours on my blog that included an email and had to delete the whole post, including your wonderful comment.

But, here's my take. Love does matter, always. So does hate, because it sets a fire under you and makes you act. We have both been down a few roads and like to shake the trees under the politicos. Done that. I will do what I can do, but it won't be my life anymore. We deserve a rest and yes, retirement IS great and you can pick your battles easier and devote more attention to the ones that matter.

You can also lay in a hammock and watch the ocean. That's not bad either.

Big Hugs!

December 12, 2009 5:43 PM  
Blogger ewe said...

Do they happen to be a couple as well? It's great you have a support system in your new town.

December 12, 2009 8:31 PM  
Blogger Chris said...

Good to hear you once again and glad to hear things are progressing and going well in Mexico, including finding more reason to feel comfortable there!!
Happiness? Retirement, grandkids, healthy parents in their 80's, weathering the economic situation, and as you can relate, just being greatful for a great partership in life! Nothing better, no matter where you are!!!!!!

December 13, 2009 12:21 AM  
Blogger Willym said...

One of the things that made me happy was seeing that you had posted something and that isn't cyber bs its the truth. I had been going over past postings and looking at links and comments and had been thinking that there had been an "empty" were you were for far too long and wondered how the house was coming and how you were. And then eccola!

Now if I could only figure out what sort of word >tailbidi< is - yep that was my verification word.

December 13, 2009 2:06 AM  
Blogger Dusty said...

Maybe aluminum so when the ocean comes into the house during a storm, it won't warp the wood floors?

I am so glad you are happy and fixing up your new home. I just hope you still blog occasionally after you relocate.

December 14, 2009 4:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Yay! Just Yay!

December 17, 2009 11:50 AM  
Blogger NinjaMom said...

Well, after a scary post-partum depression thingie earlier this year, I've been feeling better than I ever have, thanks to therapy and some zoloft. :) I honestly just appreciate the now - I have two gorgeous happy daughters who seem to adore each other. I have a safe comfy home and a husband who loves me. Instead of worrying about tomorrow, I've started enjoying today. :)

Oh and it doesn't hurt that I've lost 13 pounds on weight watchers. I have a long way to go but it feels good to be on my way!

It sounds like your home in Mexico is going to be beautiful. :)

December 17, 2009 9:24 PM  
Blogger tankmontreal said...

Glad you asked. I am friggin' nutso joyous and here's why:

Was inducted into the Quarter Century Club at work (on the same stage where Bill Clinton had spoken six days earlier!), got my gold watch and (unrelated) a promotion/raise.

Turned 50. Released from the shackles of my repressed youth. Loving it.

Married Bill with the blessings of our parents and siblings in a self-composed ceremony and after-party we'd no clue we could actually pull off.

So yeah, I'm happy these days. Glad I made it to middle age.

December 19, 2009 3:13 AM  
Anonymous Keith (formerly) from Ohio said...

Hi Lynette,

I did what I had to do - I got back (barely) into Federal employment. While I'm not happy with who I work for, at least I don't have to worry about money any more. Luckily I was able to sell the bookstore in my home town to a guy who will keep it.

I'm popping the question this week to a wonderful woman I met last February. She's looking for a job in South Dakota where I live now. I like it here. Despite it being pretty red state, the people here are generally very nice and the economy is great.

Hopefully life continues to get better by degrees. I'm doing my best not to fear the future.

Glad you're finding happiness in getting your retirement hacienda ready!

All the best,

Keith (formerly) from Ohio

December 20, 2009 2:10 PM  
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December 23, 2009 4:55 AM  
Blogger more cowbell said...

L, reading about your up and coming life in Mexico fills me truly with a bit of joy. I can just imagine how happy it must make you feel.

What am I happy about? I'm happy my daughter lived through the accident and is healthy and is healing her heart.

Please keep writing from Mexico. It does my heart good.

December 26, 2009 4:31 AM  

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